New Puppy

We are the proud parents of a new puppy Feta. She is very cute and very fun. She is also very good tempered. Not like her "Dad"....LOL. It was pretty much my idea since hubby is home more now that he got a DWI and cannot drive --- except 3 hrs a week and back and forth to work once a week (or if scheduled).

Long story on the DWI --- just stupid. And costly. The dog is working out very nicely --- she is a love. My hope is that it will also help hubby get over his loneliness and get him out walking more often --- taking the dog with him.

We had one of our worst fights ever just a few weeks ago --- while traveling to NH.....it was really ugly. I actually video'd a bit of it -- have kept the video --- I'm not sure he realizes that I have it or how bad it was. I'll keep it for future reference if he acts up again. or When he acts up again.

I'm sure that all of this is my moodiness ( he thinks it's menopause).....could be related...but not as far as I'm concerned.

For now --things are pretty good --- and everyone is getting along and the work on the house is progressing nicely.

It happened

Well, it finally happened --- he got a DWI!!! I've been warning him every time they do "lunch" which last 5 hours not to drive. Well this month (once a month lunch) he drove and got his truck stuck in a snowbank. While trying to get the truck out (we have AAA) someone must've alerted the police.....they came and arrested him. He was quite embarrassed -- devastated actually --- and so was I. Now we are paying one thing after another --- fines, fees, etc. Next the insurance is bound to go up. He is losing his license for 6 months --- only a Conditional. The list goes on.

Lent is about to start and I am giving up drinking during the week. Did this last year and felt great!!! I need to do this for myself. He mentioned that he might do the same --- one night --- but last night was back to just giving up swearing. Big deal.

That's it for now .... In the meantime we are redoing our family room --- it looks beautiful --- we have both done a lot of work. I'm hoping to keep him motivated --- he will have a lot of time on his hands.

Better Times

We are doing better these past couple of weeks --- no fighting and when we have been on the verge --- talked things thru. I hope this continues.

I haven't been drinking during the week -- maybe this helps --- less argumentative. I've also gotten back into running more and x-bike classes which really help my stress level. Hubby is working a bit more also, which he seems to enjoy.

Don't want either of us to get too tired over the holidays --- we are traveling to Houston on Christmas day --- so need plenty of rest. Trying to keep the stress level down.

Good Support

I Finally did the full marathon on Sunday!!! Yippee!! I'm so excited -- I did what I set out to do which was run a marathon before I turned 50!

I had very good support --- I didn't get the best training in -- my own fault -- but did have hubby standing by to keep me going. He met me several times on the course with candy, food -- water --- plus there was good support on the course with water and gatorade. It was a slow race for me but I had a good time.

I hope to be a little faster next time with a bit more training.

More of the same

Well, things were getting better for a little while on the drinking front --- hubby never actually went one day without anything -- but was down to about two drinks a night instead of the customary 3-4. That WAS an improvement.

The last couple of weeks have gotten worse --- he has been going out to lunch on wednesdays more often and every one of them was a total drunk. And then he drives. It is not far -- but someone could get killed in just the first 100 yds. He would also lose his job with a car company --- which I'm sure he would hate.

Tonight I am going to try to bring this up and make some points --- see if he does any better. I'm not very hopeful at this point. In the meantime, my step-son has quit drinking -- and he had a serious problem also.

Toasted Again

And sleeping ---- thank goodness....................it's been a while since I've blogged in here --- guess it's time for an update

We vacationed recently for two weeks in Calif. --- it was wonderful --- and we rented road bikes for the two weeks so that I could train for an upcoming triathlon which I was teaming with a girlfriend. I had a great time riding --- and did well in the race after doing the hills in La Jolla. It was a good vacation -- relaxing.

The only drawback to all the bike training is that it left me with four weeks to get back to my running -- I want to sign up for a marathon -- oct. 12th. I have yet to do the 20 miler.

Back to the toasted, sleeping individual -- he had been doing much better === then big slip today -- lunch with the boys and practically comatose when I got home --- so I let him sleep it off. He will say that he was extra tired because of getting up for work the last couple of days (which I get up for also). I agree that it is a factor -- but when I call both cell and home and get no answer --- I assume he is totally out which he was.

I need get back to my writing --- back soon.

Confrontation

Well, I finally did it......went to an Al-Anon meeting and also told DH about going. Told him that I had a problem with his drinking so heavily every night. He does not think it is such a "big deal" and does not consider it a sign of "Alcoholism". He just says he has a problem with an addiction to Stoli! Whatever you call it is a problem for me.

Al-Anon I think will help me at least -- and I think the more I go and the more he sees the effects on me --- that maybe it will eventually change. We'll see. For now, I am going to "let the dust settle" and see how it goes.

He says he is happy with his life and with me --- and that I should be happy -- since I can do whatever I like, whenever I like --- which is somewhat true --- and that he supportive. He supportive of my running events, etc. but tries to control most things. He does not trust me -- which I caused --- because I was "involved" with another runner --- 6 yrs. ago. Now, if I am not home by the appointed hour --- or something takes longer than expected --- he gets very agitated. Some of that is the trust issue and sometimes it's because it interrupts "happy Hour".