Confrontation

Well, I finally did it......went to an Al-Anon meeting and also told DH about going. Told him that I had a problem with his drinking so heavily every night. He does not think it is such a "big deal" and does not consider it a sign of "Alcoholism". He just says he has a problem with an addiction to Stoli! Whatever you call it is a problem for me.

Al-Anon I think will help me at least -- and I think the more I go and the more he sees the effects on me --- that maybe it will eventually change. We'll see. For now, I am going to "let the dust settle" and see how it goes.

He says he is happy with his life and with me --- and that I should be happy -- since I can do whatever I like, whenever I like --- which is somewhat true --- and that he supportive. He supportive of my running events, etc. but tries to control most things. He does not trust me -- which I caused --- because I was "involved" with another runner --- 6 yrs. ago. Now, if I am not home by the appointed hour --- or something takes longer than expected --- he gets very agitated. Some of that is the trust issue and sometimes it's because it interrupts "happy Hour".

Getting Along

Well we're getting along better if I just leave things along --- i.e. don't say anything about the fact that DH is getting drunk every night. The other night he actually slept in a chair on the patio until 4:00 a.m. --- I think it's embarassing that the neighbors would see him out there -- doesn't seem to really faze him. Oh well --- I'm too occupied these days with running and biking to worry that much about it. I'm also going to do more stuff with others which he will have to get used to.